Unlike your younger years, it’s not uncommon for singles over 50 to have a smaller social circle that mostly includes couples. This can make it difficult to meet other singles but it can be done.
If you aren’t having much luck getting back into a dating groove, try these tips:
Boost your confidence. Get active. Eat well. Update your look. All of these can help you see yourself — and face the dating world — with a more positive attitude.
Say “yes” — a lot. Start accepting invitations to as many events as you can, even the ones that you may think will be boring. Charity events, parties, talks or lectures, and even business functions are great opportunities to be social (and get mingling) as a single again. Practice makes perfect!
Try online dating. The advantages are plenty:
- You can be anonymous — until you don’t want to be
- Be specific about your potential dates: age, gender, cultural background, hobbies
- Be upfront about the type of connection you want — for example, casual or a long-term relationship
- You can keep the relationship online (and stress-free) using the website’s messaging centre or video-chat before meeting in person
Just note, though, that online dating may also be expensive (depending on the site you choose), frustrating (limited profiles matches that interest you) or time consuming (wading through too many matches) and disappointing (dishonest profiles).
It’s okay to let sex wait. Now that you’re older and wiser, finding someone sexually attractive may take a little more time. And if you’ve had the same sex partner for years, getting naked or being intimate with someone new can be a terrifying thought. So be patient with yourself, and the person you’re dating. And consider that the sex itself can be different too.
Look to fall into like rather than love. Finding friends is great at any age — especially if you’re newly single and feeling lonely. Companionship comes in many forms so don’t treat dates as intense spouse-hunting missions.
And remember that dating is supposed to be fun! Keep your mood and your conversation light — at least for the first date or two.